Reader Question:
Hi David,
I’m 60 yrs . old, really healthier, very energetic, and a really great woman. I got a very cool wedding older women looking for men more than 3 decades. I joined Match.com once I separated, had multiple times (these people were awful), right after which one jumped up. I’ve outdated him on and off for just two years. He said he enjoys myself, but the guy vanishes on a regular basis. We see him for one or two days, then he is gone for just two to 3 weeks. He had been married for three decades features three children (just like me) and says he has got commitment issues and is witnessing a therapist regarding it. Their wife cheated on him and then he has medication and alcoholic drinks dilemmas.
Do I need to look at this guy is toxic? If the guy contacts me once again (which I suspect he will probably), do I need to make sure he understands not to ever get in touch with me personally any longer, or can I only tell him i like becoming with him but have always been making my personal solutions prepared for big date other individuals?
-Nancy (California)
David Wygant’s Solution:
Should you think about this person toxic? No.
I might consider him are a booty phone call.
Which is all they are. He is a booty call.
He does not want to make. He’s creating plenty of excuses, and yet he likes to arrive over and trick around.
Whenever one does that, all he is performing is using you as an intimate companion.
Confront him onto it if you’d like, but a person like him will make up some sort of tale not to be stop intimately.
Very move ahead and discover someone that is deserving of you.
Committed you’ve been wasting contemplating him being with him is actually time you may be fulfilling an innovative new guy.
Benefit from the process!
David